Body language is a huge part of love. You see, scientists have
studied couples in every stage of their relationship. At different
stages, the couples have different body language. But, there is a
definite pattern of body language that is followed by all couples.
Nobody taught you this body language. You just know it. You knew it
when you were born. Then the media and friends etc. confused you.
Just to give you an example: When two cats meet for the first time,
they stop and look at each other. If one hisses, the other bristles his
coat and hisses back. However, if the first kitten gives a little nudge
with it’s nose, the other kitten responds in a similar way, then
the two cats end up purring together and licking each other's coats.
In this case, the right body language for the cat to make when he first
saw the other cat would be to nudge the other cat with his nose. If he
were to hiss instead, he would spoil the relation with the other cat.
Human beings also have similar body language practices when they meet
for the first time. But, the problem is most people are confused about
them. Most people are not sure what they are supposed to do. They do
not rely on their instincts and so they do not know what is to be done.
This is what “first impressions” are all about. If you do
not do the “fist impression” right, you will never be
licking each other's coats.
Here we have tried to provide you with the best way to go about your first impression.
The most important part: Eye Contact
A man may be classified as a breast man, a buttocks man, or a leg
man. And, although women will insist they are not, most women are butt
watchers. (This is not just a random statement: a British study
determined that these are people's favorite eyeball destinations.)
But researchers have found that EVERYBODY is an eye person.
Powerful eye contact immediately stimulates strong feelings of
affection. This was proved once and for all in a study called "The
Effects of Mutual Gaze on Feelings of Romantic Love." Researchers put
forty-eight men and women who didn't know each other in a big room.
They gave them instructions on how much eye contact to have with their
partners during casual conversation.
Afterward, the researchers asked each participant how he or she felt about the various people they had spoken with.
The results?
Those couples that were instructed to have deep eye contact with one
another had increased feelings of “love” towards one
another than those who did not. Simply put: Deep eye contact, from the
first time you talk to your partner is very important to make him/her
fall in love with you.
Why does eye contact have such a strong effect? Well, it’s
complicated! It has got something to do with “primal
instincts” that eye contact brings about. But, that does not
matter. What matters is that, if you have an intense eye contact with
your partner from the very first impression, he/she is much more likely
to fall in love with you.
Another reason why eye contact works according to researchers is that, eye contact is like giving a compliment.
Simply put, you would look at something that is beautiful. You would
not look at something that is ugly. If you do see something that is
ugly, you will immediately put your hands over your eyes or look away.
When something is not that interesting the first thing that your boy
does is look away. Your eyes are the first things to move.
So, if you want to convey, “You are interesting, you are
beautiful etc…” without really saying it, the best way to
do it would be eye contact. You might we wondering, “He/she is
not going to think so much! He/she is not going to realize that I am
complimenting him/her!” Well, all this happens on sub-conscious
level. You just do your part and make eye contact, the “other
party” will understand!
If you get bored just looking at the eyes, explore the eyes. Look at
all the little color changes that make up your partner’s eyes.
Look at the designs of their eyes. Look at the reflection in their eyes
etc.
Please note: Do not over do this also. Look away form time to time and
then make eye contact again! If you just keep looking straight without
blinking, you will scare him/her.
When you are talking and making eye-contact with him/her, there is
another technique also that you could use. It's called “Sticky
Eyes”! This is what you basically have to do:
Whenever you are talking to him/her, let your eyes stay glued to his or
hers a little longer—“even during the silences”. When
you must look away, do so reluctantly. Drag your eyes away slowly, as
though they had been stuck. This will really get your partner going!
Remember the key, “Maintain eye contact for some time even during
silences!”
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