Why do people procrastinate? - Complex reasons!
Anger or Hostility:
When you feel anger or hostility towards the person you are doing
the particular task for, you will procrastinate doing the task. Why? To
get even with the person! To fight back with the person.
For example: Assume that you are a student and you are sitting in the
class of a very irritating professor. Now, suppose that the professor
gives you some long assignment to complete. You are very likely to
procrastinate doing this assignment. You will procrastinate telling
your self something like, “Haad, nai karra main uska assignment! Kya karenga woh? ”
Basically you procrastinate to rebel against the professor. But, the
problem is, when the time to submit the assignment comes, you will have
to rush though it and submit it last minute. You will do a bad job on
it.
How do you make sure you do not make this mistake? Understand what you
are feeling. Understand that if you postpone doing the task, it is
going to affect you later. You do not want an irritating professor or
some stupid boss destroy your future, right? So do not let your anger
come in the way of things.
Low frustration tolerance:
If you do not have the capacity to take too much frustration, you
will have a tendency to procrastinate things. The problem is that,
whenever you sit to do a particular task, if you feel that doing the
task will be frustrating, then the amount of frustration involved
overwhelms you. You try to find a way to escape all that frustration.
So you end up not doing that task. You postpone the task.
To overcome this, you could try to find someone who can help you doing
the task. If some one is an expert on the task, they will show you the
right way. This will help you do the task in the future without all the
frustration involved.
But, you may not always be able to find someone. You need to have a
higher tolerance to frustration. You can develop this by trying to
accomplish what you are doing no matter how hard it is. Even when it is
frustrating, stick to it! Do not quit. All this is easier to say than
do, I know!
Self-Downing:
Some people have a tendency to continuously put them selves down.
For example: These people will constantly say stuff like, “No, it
was just luck!” or “No, I cannot work that fast! I am very
slow at work!”
If you do this, you are most likely also a procrastinator! You do not
believe in your-self and you do not believe in your success. So, to
avoid success or the “lime light” you sub-consciously try
not to succeed. You do this by procrastinating.
How to solve this problem? Firstly do not put your self down
constantly. Except compliments about your work that people give you. If
someone says, “Good job!” say “Thank You!” do
not say, “It was my luck!”
Figure out why you feel uncomfortable with success. Did some important
people in your life often make you feel that way? Were you taught to
minimize your success? Why is success so scary? Will it make you stand
out in the crowd? Do you feel as though others will not accept you if
you are successful? Also, when ever you do something well, praise
yourself for it! Take a few seconds to enjoy the good work that you
have done!
Perfectionism:
Some people are perfectionists or are forced to be perfectionists.
And because of this, they turn into procrastinators. Why? When you have
a very very high standard for everything you do, all the work that you
do requires a LOT of effort. Because of this, you will try to escape
all the effort by simply procrastinating your work! It’s easier
to just not do the work than to take all the effort and do it
perfectly. Perfectionist, say things like, “I will either do it
right! Or I will not do it at all!”
How to solve this problem? I am sorry to say this but, you will have to
lower your standards. You will have to start excepting things that are
not 100% okay! Make an effort to actually praise what work you have
done. Perfectionism is a problem that comes out of self-doubt or
self-esteem. So you must learn to be confident of your self and your
abilities.
Now, you understand all the causes that make people procrastinate.
You probably understood really well one or two of these causes because
they are the specific problems that affect you. Now, it is important
that when you procrastinate in your daily life, you try to identify why
exactly you are procrastinating and overcome it.
Generally procrastinating is due to some physiological issue that you
must resolve. The above provided tricks can help, but what will really
help is if you go to a good therapist, and ask him/her to identify your
problems and get them resolved. Unfortunately not everyone has the time
or the money to do this. But, if you do have the resources, use them.
Go to a therapist and ask him/her to help you with your procrastination
problem. This will help you a lot!
Now, before we go into other ways to overcome your procrastination, let
us quickly understand how you can make sure that your children do not
suffer from the procrastination problem that you face…
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